Jan 24, 2012

Self-Meeting: Have A Meeting With "Your Selves"

Meeting One's Self Photo
Photo Credit: Alexander JE Bradley

What is Self-Meeting?

Self-Meeting is a visualization-meditation technique that I developed (Apparently, a similar technique has been discussed in Shakti Gwain's book Creative Visualization) in which you basically have a meeting with your different "selves".

I don't know if I'm the first one to come up with this idea, but I haven't seen it anywhere else.


What is Self-Meeting used for?

Self-Meeting is used to gain more awareness about yourself (or your selves). It's most effective for brainstorming, problem-solving, goal-setting, or simply as a form of introspection, meditation and self-awareness.


How to arrange a Self-Meeting?

The process of arranging a Self-Meeting is very similar to meditation. So you'll find it much easier to go through a Self-Meeting if you meditate regularly.

The following is a step-by-step guide for arranging a Self-Meeting:

1. Sit in a comfortable position

If you are a regular meditator, go to your favorite meditation spot and sit in your favorite meditational position. If you've never meditated before, just find a calm spot and sit in a comfortable position. You can either lie down, sit cross-legged or on a chair, etc. Ultimately, the best posture is the one which works best for you; you can experiment with different postures to see which suits you best.

2. Close your eyes

Just close your eyes and focus your attention on your breathing. Keep it like that until you feel totally at peace with yourself. It could take a while in the first time, but you'll reach it faster with practice.

3. Manifest the meeting room

This is where it starts to get exciting!

Now, imagine yourself entering a building (hotel-like). You can do it in either first or third person mode. As you enter through the door, you get greeted by a lovely attendant, and he asks you what you're looking for. You ask him about the Self-Meeting room. He smiles, and asks you to follow him. You are then escorted to a long, dark corridor; at the end of it there's a door that says "The Self-Meeting Room". You thank the attendant and then he leaves.

Note: You are free to create your own scenario; you can have a female attendant, have the room at the end of a staircase or elevator... Just make sure to create a friendly place that you'd be happy to return to over and over again.

4. Enter the room

Slowly open the door and enter the meeting room. You notice a large, round table with chairs. If you find that the tables and chairs are dull, you are free to replace them with better looking furniture. If you work in a company, you can add the same furniture you have in your company's meeting room. Add photos to the wall, change the room's color... The more personalized the room gets, the better.

5. Manifest attendees

This is where is starts to get really exciting!

Of course, you can't do a meeting on your own, even if it's called a Self-Meeting. So start manifesting/summoning attendees! You are free to make the attendees enter through the door, pop-up in their seats, or any other way that you desire.

You can choose to manifest any or all of the following attendees:

a. Your ideal self

This attendee represents your ideal self, the self that has scored a 10/10 on all his life areas. He's very wise and quiet. Imagine how your ideal self will look/act like and manifest him into the meeting.

b. Your past self

This attendee represents your past self, be it 1, 3, 5 or 10 years ago. Recall how you used to think, act and how you looked like back then, and summon this past self to the meeting.

c. Your future self

This attendee represents your future self. While your ideal self represents a far future, your future self is what you expect or plan to be 1, 3, 5 or 10 years from now. When manifesting your future self, keep in mind that he also contains your past and current selves.

d. Your current self

Yes, you can also summon your own projection into the meeting. It's especially beneficial for self-awareness purposes.

e. Your partial selves

A partial self is a projection of your self that only holds a single character of yours. e.g. you can manifest your fearful self, your stressed self, your humorous self, your intelligent self... etc. Make sure that the self's style of dressing/talking reflects the character it represents.

Note: While you can manifest as many or as few attendees as you wish, a meeting with only one self can be very eye-opening.

6. Present the issue

Now, pose that issue to be discussed and present it to each one of the attendees in turn. Don't use your mind to make your selves talk. Instead, let your intuition guide you to their answers. If a self doesn't respond immediately, don't think for an answer for him, just take silence as his answer.

Also, you can make all your selves talk at the same time, so only the selves with something to say will speak up.

In case of a one-on-one interview, you have to be extra careful not to over-project your self on the other self.

You can discuss with your selves on any topic you like. e.g you can ask them about your health issues, your religious believes, your work problems... you can also discuss what you should do with your life, your purpose, your goals... there is no limit.

Note: It's very possible to experience an a-ha moment during the meeting. Make sure to keep your eyes closed and don't end the meeting right away.

7. End the meeting

When you finish all the issues you want to discuss for the day, you can call the meeting for an end. You can also manifest a board and do a summary of the results you came up with before you leave.

Finally, shake hands with each self as it fades away (or walk through the door) and feel the energy and vibrations they radiate. Usually, good radiations is a sign of a good Self-Meeting.

8. Leave the building

When all the attendees are gone, walk out the door and go back into the corridor. Say goodbye to the friendly attendant (you can leave him a tip if you want), and as you walk out of the building, slowly open your eyes.

Stay in your position for a few minutes and reflect about the results you came up with. You may want to journal or to meditate afterwards.


Of course, the Self-Meeting technique is still in its infancy. It could be further modified along the way. If you have any suggestions, simply drop a comment and I may consider to add it to the official technique (:

I wonder if it's possible to do a Self-Meeting in a lucid dream? Well that would be a big time saver (;